Thank you for this topic and working on it. I experience fear a lot in my life. It flows through me almost every day. Today I also had an episode of it and I noticed that allowing myself to be personal in it, to admit fear and even to cry helped me to process it. I was amazed after a while how my state changed within minutes and I regain access to different resources in myself (like creativity, connection, confidence), and it happened through allowing fear to happen
wow, thank you dear Gabrysia, for sharing so deep and personally. It seems so counter-intuitive to me to step into fear and at the same time I know that putting it aside is not a longterm solution. you deepened my understanding and gave me a kind of receipt 'allowing fear to happen'.
After reading the texts I turned to myself and understood that usually I run from my fear, it is hard for me to face it. Why? Is it only because of these disturbing experiences in my body that occur in the face of this emotion? No, not only this. It is something more. It's a shame. Shame to feel the fear, to talk about it, to express it. I don't know where this shame comes from. Maybe it has something to do with a shame to feel and express feelings in general. As if it could be harmful in some way. Dangerous for me and for other people around me. As if it could spread as a kind of disease... But is it really true?
“I have the right to feel fear” - wow! Yes, yes! Give me more! “Most of the time I give fear a chance” - this one is even more powerful. Love it. I want to taste it, feel it, dance it, sing it. I will start with the movemnet and see where it will take me. Thank you for this opportunity.
Is allowing fear to consume you a sign of defeat or strength?
That is the question I have been trying to answer on and on. Came to a conclusion of yes and no!
Fear can consume us and make us feel so helpless. It can break us into tiny pieces.
I remember when I got a job in the Northern part of Kenya where there were constant attacks from Alshabab, Somalia militia group. People would be killed on the way, going or coming. People would be removed from their houses and get killed. It was bad. I lived in fear every day. Though I still had to live with my young boys, in all that fear. We would cry at night when we hear gun shots, deep inside I would say, "It is better to die with my sons rather than leaving them with no one in this world."
I realise today how fear consumed me, I gave in to it unknowingly. Totally soaked in it and I enjoyed the sad flirts of dying together, probably even sharing a grave.
That too was my strength, I ensured everywhere I went, we had to be together. We woke up each day telling ourselves that we have to stick together no matter what happens. It gave us life. We left that place after 6 years alive!
Thank you for this deep sharing, dear Mildred, and making me more aware about how fear is getting a different importance, becoming a kind of ally in life threatening situations/war zones 💥
Thank you for this topic and working on it. I experience fear a lot in my life. It flows through me almost every day. Today I also had an episode of it and I noticed that allowing myself to be personal in it, to admit fear and even to cry helped me to process it. I was amazed after a while how my state changed within minutes and I regain access to different resources in myself (like creativity, connection, confidence), and it happened through allowing fear to happen
wow, thank you dear Gabrysia, for sharing so deep and personally. It seems so counter-intuitive to me to step into fear and at the same time I know that putting it aside is not a longterm solution. you deepened my understanding and gave me a kind of receipt 'allowing fear to happen'.
Thanks for sharing this dear Gabrysia,
So insightful.
You have given new ideas 💡.
Thank you for sharing, Anna Gabryjelska-Basiuk. Beautiful and inspiring.
After reading the texts I turned to myself and understood that usually I run from my fear, it is hard for me to face it. Why? Is it only because of these disturbing experiences in my body that occur in the face of this emotion? No, not only this. It is something more. It's a shame. Shame to feel the fear, to talk about it, to express it. I don't know where this shame comes from. Maybe it has something to do with a shame to feel and express feelings in general. As if it could be harmful in some way. Dangerous for me and for other people around me. As if it could spread as a kind of disease... But is it really true?
“I have the right to feel fear” - wow! Yes, yes! Give me more! “Most of the time I give fear a chance” - this one is even more powerful. Love it. I want to taste it, feel it, dance it, sing it. I will start with the movemnet and see where it will take me. Thank you for this opportunity.
Is allowing fear to consume you a sign of defeat or strength?
That is the question I have been trying to answer on and on. Came to a conclusion of yes and no!
Fear can consume us and make us feel so helpless. It can break us into tiny pieces.
I remember when I got a job in the Northern part of Kenya where there were constant attacks from Alshabab, Somalia militia group. People would be killed on the way, going or coming. People would be removed from their houses and get killed. It was bad. I lived in fear every day. Though I still had to live with my young boys, in all that fear. We would cry at night when we hear gun shots, deep inside I would say, "It is better to die with my sons rather than leaving them with no one in this world."
I realise today how fear consumed me, I gave in to it unknowingly. Totally soaked in it and I enjoyed the sad flirts of dying together, probably even sharing a grave.
That too was my strength, I ensured everywhere I went, we had to be together. We woke up each day telling ourselves that we have to stick together no matter what happens. It gave us life. We left that place after 6 years alive!
Thank you for this deep sharing, dear Mildred, and making me more aware about how fear is getting a different importance, becoming a kind of ally in life threatening situations/war zones 💥
Beautiful work. I can't read enough of this thread on fear.
Great job team.
Dear Kazimiera, amazing, would love to see your dance, hear your song or what else is coming out of your movement !